I wrote an article recently on pulse.ng about whether you need to divulge the information of your body count to your partner. That post is different from this one because here I’ll be talking about whether it is important to let your partner know about your past relationships or in this case, one night stands. Some of you may have already guessed but for those who haven’t this post is largely inspired by the last episode of Skinny Girl In Transit. Episode Ten: Liars Perish.
Basically, I am going to analyze the last episode. I refrained from putting this post up immediately I watched the episode for the sole reason of giving people who haven’t seen the episode a chance to go and watch it. So, nobody should come and accuse me of spoiling it for them, I have tried.
Back to the issue at hand, so we all know how Tiwa had a one night stand with Fabreas (I don’t care whether I spelt his name correctly on not, nobody should question me because I’m vexing) and then, the one night stand came back to haunt her.
We all know how that ‘exes’ (for lack of a better word let me refer to Fabreas as an ex) will see you doing good and then they will now bring their misfortune to your side. But accepted, he brought his misfortune back and to avoid trouble Tiwa’s sister my favorite person Shalewa and Tiwa’s friend Dede told Tiwa to tell Mide before things got out of hand, regarding the fact that Mide and Fabreas already had and still have personally issues.
Tiwa had every opportunity to tell Mide about what had transpired between her and Fabreas. But, she chose the moment Mide was mad at her for wearing that stupid waist trainer (I don’t even want to get started on that one) to tell him about Fabreas. And the way she began was even wrong because in my opinion she did not cheat on him.
The question is was Mide right to be angry? YES he had every right to be angry because Fabreas used to be his friend, dated his sister and broke her heart and now wants to compete with his radio station. To find out that he kissed his girlfriend is annoying enough but to find out that he had a one night stand with her is infuriating. But for Mide to find out only because his sister (can’t remember her name because she is also an annoying person) knew about the kiss and Tiwa felt threatened that’s why she spoke. So, he would never had found out, if that had not happened.
God… I felt his heartbreak in my spirit… as in, it entered my body. But also, looking at it from Tiwa’s perspective she didn’t want to tell him because she did not want to break his heart. I mean how do you open your mouth to tell your boyfriend that you slept with a man who broke his sister’s heart and then also tried to poach you from his company and then you later went on a dinner date with him which led to a very stupid kiss. So yes, I was pissed at Tiwa because of the manner at which she told Mide but, I started crying with her when she got back home and fell into her sister’s arms.
The place that my heart nearly shattered into a million pieces was where Mide brought out the ring…ah.. I almost died.
Chai.. This love thing can be very hard and complicated at times.
The questions I’m asking today is should our past relationships matter in our present? Should we feel guilty about something we did in the past or a relationship we had in the past?
Relating these questions to Tiwa and Mide’s scenario, first I don’t think you have to feel guilty about something that happened in the past. It was guilt and fear that made Tiwa tarry in telling Mide and it also made her go on that silly date with Fabreas. (Fabreas should be brought out and shot, don’t tell me otherwise.)
The second question ordinarily I would say that we don’t need to bring our past baggage into our new relationship but in the case of Tiwa and Mide, it was important for him to know because the past had brought itself into the future. Fabreas and Mide had history and trust is very important. There is no way Mide would not have felt betrayed.
In other words, I believe that when it comes to divulging to past we need to look at the situation. If it is not needed you don’t have to say anything. But, if there is that slightest doubt that the past can affect the present just say it and free yourself of the burden because whatever will happen will happen . Look at Tiwa for example, what she was trying to avoid, finally happened.
Over to you guys, those who are fans of SGIT like me because you guys are the ones who will actually understand this post. Do you think Mide overreacted or do you think Tiwa should have actually told him sooner?
I’d like to know your thoughts on this but remember o this is husband and wife matter and, by the grace of God they will settle it.